Ah, women, that you are here on earth, that you
move here among us, grief-filled,
no more watched over than we and yet able
to bless like the blessed.
From what region,
when the loved one appears,
do you take the future?
More than will ever exist.
He who knows distances
up to the outermost fixed star
is amazed to find this,
your magnificent heartspace.
How, in the crush, do you keep it free?
--Rainer Maria Rilke
Jan Meyers says that if you've found someone who has lived fully and is still fully alive, you've found a treasure--learn from her.